How to cope with calamity and crisis

These simple daily exercises can help you face up to the inevitable tension in your life

How to cope with calamity and crisisThe spate of mass shootings in the United States has caused most of us to pause. Bad stuff can happen to good people. We wonder what we would do if we found ourselves caught up in such violence. Sometimes just hearing about such tragedies can lead us to feel tense and uncertain. And that can…

Being a good leader means being a good listener

When you aren’t listening you’re missing an awful lot

Being a good leader means being a good listenerLast week, my friend was lamenting that she was away for her 16-year-old son’s first day of school and wouldn’t be there to pick him up. Obviously, her son doesn’t need his mom there. But driving him home lets her listen to him vent. It gives her insight into what he’s thinking, how he’s doing…

Turning your sense of failure into success

Believing you can't do something won't get problems solved. Find a way if you truly want a happy life

Turning your sense of failure into success“I can’t manage everything by myself anymore ... I’m completely stressed out! From being responsible for all the meal planning to childcare responsibilities to cleaning the house, there’s no romance, no time for friends, no time to read. Something has to give.” These were the first words spoken when I sat down with one of…

Feeling stressed? Think and behave like an Olympic athlete

Here are a few tips for performing better under pressure

Feeling stressed? Think and behave like an Olympic athlete“A gentleman does not lose control of his temper. … Exhibitions of anger, fear, hatred, embarrassment, ardour or hilarity, are all bad form in public,” wrote Emily Post. The Summer Olympic Games in Tokyo are underway. Sometimes I’m grateful that this only happens every four years. It’s one of those rare times when my husband…

The trouble with lusting after status

If the price requires sacrificing civility and honour, we've lost ourselves

The trouble with lusting after statusStatus is a constant in human life, although much of the time we don't think about it because it's everywhere and takes so many forms. It’s been said that “if it doesn’t happen on YouTube, it didn’t happen.” But are those messages helping or hindering? Are we unintentionally inviting individuals to seek their moments of fame…

Why some people overestimate their abilities while others underestimate

Most people tend to predict that others will do better than they will on difficult tasks

Why some people overestimate their abilities while others underestimateA lack of confidence in our abilities on a given task or activity seems to stem from overestimating the abilities of others, according to a University of Alberta study. The finding could offer leaders insights into how to counter self-doubt in the face of a difficult task. Previous research has shown that most people tend to…

Your body reflects your emotions, so loosen up

Mental pressures of the world starting to weigh you down?

Your body reflects your emotions, so loosen upRobert, as a hyperactive child, was constantly told to stop fidgeting. When he felt the urge to fidget, he remembered his mother’s disapproval and clenched his fists and held his arms rigidly at his sides. He spent so much of his life clenching his fists and holding himself rigidly that he appeared stiff and lifeless.…

Dealing with critics can give you powerful motivation

The more the critics bark, the more you’ll accomplish

Dealing with critics can give you powerful motivationFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

Embrace uncertainty to get the most out of life

Life is full of trials and tribulations. Who better to conquer them than you?

Embrace uncertainty to get the most out of lifeNo matter how blessed your life may be, you’ll never be free from uncertainty. To live is to be uncertain. Even with the best-laid plans, you can’t know what’s coming next. If that’s the case, you have two choices – you can fret and worry about the uncertainty, or you can embrace it. If you…